Donald Trump in Too Much and Never Enough


On Principles & Values: OpEd: Trump dinners include casual dehumanization of people

We thought the blatant racism on display during Donald's announcement speech would be a deal breaker, but we were disabused of that idea when white evangelicals started endorsing him.

Nothing Donald said during the campaign--from his disparagement of Hillary Clinton, arguably the most qualified presidential candidate ever in this country, as a 'nasty woman'; to his mocking of Serge Kovaleski, a disabled New York Times reporter--deviated from my expectation of him. In fact, I was reminded of every family meal I had ever attended during which Donald had talked about all women as ugly, fat slobs or the men, usually more accomplished or powerful, he called losers, while my grandfather and Maryanne, Elizabeth, and Robert all laughed and joined in. That kind of casual dehumanization of people was commonplace at the Trump table. What did surprise me was that he kept getting away with it. Then he received the nomination. The things I thought would disqualify him seemed only to strengthen his base.

Source: Too Much and Never Enough, by Mary Trump, p. 9 Jul 14, 2020

On Principles & Values: OpEd diagnosis: antisocial/dependent personality disorder

I've watched as countless pundits, armchair phycologists, and journalists kept missing the mark, using phrases such as "malignant narcissism" and "narcissistic personality disorder", in an attempt to characterize Donald's often bizarre and self-defeating behavior. I have no problem calling Donald a narcissist, he meets all nine criteria as outlined in the Diagnostic and Statistical manual of Mental Disorders--but the label only gets us so far.

Does Donald have other symptoms we are unaware of? A case could be made that he also meets the criteria for antisocial personality disorder, which in its most severe form is also considered sociopathy but can also refer to criminality, arrogance, and disregard for the rights of others. Donald may also meet the criteria for dependent personality disorder, the hallmark of which include an inability to make decisions or take personal responsibility, discomfort with being alone, and going to excess lengths to get support from others.

Source: Too Much and Never Enough, by Mary Trump, p. 12-13 Jul 14, 2020

On Immigration: Mother participated in chain migration in 1930

When Fred [Donald Trump's father] was 25 years old, he attended a dance where he met Mary Anne Mcleod, recently arrived from Scotland. According to family legend, he returned home, he told his mother that he met the girl he was going to marry.

Mary [Donald Trump's mother] had been the youngest of ten in 1912 in the Outer Hebrides, located 40 miles off the coast of Scotland. Mary, one of six daughters, was encouraged to journey to America, where the opportunities were greater , and the men more plentiful.

In 1930, in a classic example of mass migration, Mary boarded the RMS Transylvania in order to join two of her sisters who had already settled in the US. Despite her status as a domestic servant, as a white Anglo-Saxon, Mary would have been allowed into the country even under her son's new draconian immigration laws introduced nearly 90 years later. She turned 18 the day before her arrival in New York and met Fred not long after. Fred and Mary were married in 1936.

Source: Too Much and Never Enough, by Mary Trump, p. 30 Jul 14, 2020

On Welfare & Poverty: 1970s: changed rental practice to avoid discrimination suit

In 1973, The Department of Justice's Civil Rights Division sued Donald and my grandfather for violating the 1968 Fair Housing act by refusing to rent to "die Schwarze", as my grandfather put it. It was one of the largest federal housing discrimination suits ever brought, and the notorious attorney Roy Cohn offered to help.

Cohn recommended that Trump Management file a countersuit against the Justice Dept. for $100 million over what he alleged were the government's false and misleading statements about his client. The maneuver was simultaneously absurd, flashy, and effective--at least in the terms of publicity it garnered; it was the first time that Donald, at 27, had landed on a newspapers' front page. And although the countersuit would be tossed out of court, Trump Management settled the case. There was no admission of wrongdoing, but they did have to change their rental practices to avoid discrimination. Even so, Cohn and Donald considered it a win because of all the press coverage.

Source: Too Much and Never Enough, by Mary Trump, p.100-1 Jul 14, 2020

On Education: Declared art deco wall "without artistic merit"

The Trump Towers opened with a great fanfare in 1983. From his reportedly unfair treatment of undocumented workers who built it, to the alleged mob involvement, the project was steeped in controversy. The affronts culminated in the destruction of the beautiful Art Deco limestone reliefs on the facade of the Bonwit Teller Building, which he razed to make room for his. Donald had promised those historically significant artifacts to the Metropolitan Museum of Art. Realizing that moving them all in one piece would cost money, and slow down construction, he instead ordered that they be destroyed. When confronted with that breach of taste, he shrugged it off, declaring the sculptures to be "without artistic merit," as if he knew better than the assessment of experts. Over time, that attitude that he knew better became entrenched: as his knowledge base had decreased, his claims to knowing everything increased to his direct proportion of insecurity, which is where we are now.
Source: Too Much and Never Enough, by Mary Trump, p.133 Jul 14, 2020

On Principles & Values: OpEd: Charmed but threatened ruination as business strategy

Donald was still Fred's [his father's] construct, but now he belonged to the banks and the media. He was both enabled and dependent on them. He had a streak of superficial charm, even charisma, that sucked certain people in. When his ability to charm hit a wall, he deployed another, "business strategy" where he threatened to bankrupt or otherwise ruin anyone who failed to let him have what he wanted. Either way, he won.

Donald was successful because he was a success. That was a premise that ignored one fundamental reality: he did not and could not achieve what he was being credited with. Despite that, his ego, now unleashed, continually had to be fed, not just by his family, but by all who encountered it. New York's elite would never accept him for anything but the court jester from Queens, but they also validated his pretensions and grandiose self-image by inviting him to their parties. The more New Yorkers wanted spectacle, the more willing the media were to provide it.

Source: Too Much and Never Enough, by Mary Trump, p.137-8 Jul 14, 2020

On Principles & Values: OpEd: false bravado based in childhood fear of father

Donald continues to exist in the dark space between the fear of indifference and the fear of failure that led to his brother's destruction. The combination of those two things, what he witnessed and what he experienced, both isolated him and terrified him. The role it played in his childhood and the role it plays now can't be overstated. And the facts that fear continues to be an overriding emotion for him speaks to the hell that must have existed in the house six decades ago.

Every time you hear Donald talking about how something is the greatest, the best, the biggest, the most tremendous, you have to remember that the man speaking is still, in essential ways, the same little boy who is desperately worried that he, like his older brother, is inadequate and that he, too will be destroyed for his inadequacy. At a very deep level, his bragging, and false bravado are not directed at the audience in front of him but at an audience of one: his long dead father.

Source: Too Much and Never Enough, by Mary Trump, p.202 Jul 14, 2020

On Principles & Values: OpEd: Sowing division is what Donald has always done

The Republican Party's willingness to turn a blind eye to the corruption he has created since January 20, 2017, have led to the impending collapse of this once great nation's economy, democracy, and health.

Despite the fluke that was his electoral advantage and, a victory that was at best suspect and at worst illegitimate, he never had his finger on the pulse of the zeitgeist; his bluster and shamefulness just happened to resonate with certain segments of the population. If what he was doing during the 2016 election hadn't worked, he would've kept doing it anyways, because lying, playing to the lowest common denominator, cheating, and sowing division are all he does. He is as incapable of adjusting to changing circumstances as he is of becoming "presidential". He did tap into a certain bigotry and inchoate rage, which he's always been good at doing.

Source: Too Much and Never Enough, by Mary Trump, p.203-4 Jul 14, 2020

On Crime: OpEd: Central Park 5 innocent by DNA, but still "guilty"

[In the 2016 campaign], he did tap into a certain bigotry and inchoate rage, which he's always been good at doing. The full-page screed he paid to publish in the New York Times back in 1989 calling for The Central Park Five to be put to death wasn't about his deep concern for rule of law; it was an easy opportunity for him to take a deeply concerned topic that was deeply important to the city, while sounding like an authority. It was unvarnished racism meant to stir up racial animosity in a city already seething with it. All five boys (Kevin Richardson, Anton McCray, Raymond Santana, Korey Wise, and Yusef Salaam, were subsequently cleared, proven innocent via incontrovertible DNA evidence. To this day however, Donald insists that they were guilty--yet another example of his inability to drop a preferred narrative even when it's contradicted by established facts.
Source: Too Much and Never Enough, by Mary Trump, p.204 Jul 14, 2020

On Health Care: OpEd: COVID response was to minimize negativity at all costs

On his watch, "Nobody could have predicted" a pandemic that his own Department of Health and Human Services was running simulations for just a few months before COVID-19 struck in Washington State. Why does he do this? Fear.

Donald didn't drag his feet in December 2019, in January, in February, in March because of his narcissism; he did it because of his fear of appearing weak or failing to project the message that everything was "great", "beautiful", and "perfect." The irony is that his failure to face the truth has inevitability led to massive failure anyway. In this case, the lives of potentially hundreds of thousands of people will be lost, and the economy of the richest country in history may be destroyed. Donald will acknowledge none of this, moving the goal posts to hide the evidence and convincing himself in the process that he's done a better job than anybody else could have if only a few hundred thousand die instead of two million.

Source: Too Much and Never Enough, by Mary Trump, p.207-8 Jul 14, 2020

On Principles & Values: OpEd: in Trump family, fear is seen as weakness

On November 9, 2016, my despair was triggered in part by the certainty that Donald's cruelty and incompetence would get people killed. I couldn't have seen that a global pandemic would present itself, allowing him to display his grotesque indifference to the lives of other people.

Donald's initial response to COVID-19 underscores his need to minimize negativity at all cost. Fear--the equivalent of weakness in our family--is as unacceptable to him now as it was when he was three years old. When Donald is in the most trouble, superlatives are no longer enough; both the situation and the reactions to it must be unique, even if absurd or nonsensical. On his watch, "Nobody could have predicted" a pandemic that his own Department of Health and Human Services was running simulations for just a few months before COVID-19 struck in Washington State. Why does he do this? Fear.

Source: Too Much and Never Enough, by Mary Trump, p.207-8 Jul 14, 2020

On Health Care: OpEd:COVID non-response because no immediate personal effect

If he'd simply had somebody take the pandemic preparedness manual down from the shelf where it was put after the Obama administration gave it to him. If he'd alerted the appropriate agencies at the first evidence the virus was highly contagious. If he'd invoked the Defense Protection Act of 1950 to being production of PPE, ventilators, and other necessary equipment to prepare the country. If he'd allowed medical and scientific experts to give press conferences during which facts were presented clear and honestly.

Most of those paths would have required no effort on his part. All he would have had to do was make a couple of phone calls, give a speech or two, then delegate everything else.

Why did it take so long for Donald to act? In part, because like my grandfather, he has no imagination. The pandemic didn't have to immediately do with him, and managing the crisis in every moment doesn't help him promote his preferred narrative that no one has ever done a better job than he has.

Source: Too Much and Never Enough, by Mary Trump, p.209 Jul 14, 2020

The above quotations are from Too Much and Never Enough
How My Family Created the World's Most Dangerous Man

by Mary L. Trump Ph.D
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How My Family Created the World's Most Dangerous Man

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